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How My Blog Answers The One Question I’ve Been Asking For 30 Years.

How My Blog Answers The One Question I’ve Been Asking For 30 Years.

Psychotherapist, former Sales Director, cancer survivor and intentional photographer Paul Roebuck reveals the single question that connects 30 years of work, seven years of blogging, and every client he has ever sat with. From dark matter to the limbic system, grief to executive performance, inner child therapy to funeral photography — everything here is one question asked from every angle. If you’ve ever wondered what connects these posts, this is where it starts.

#HumanBehaviour #Psychotherapy #ExecutiveCoaching #GriefSupport #EmotionalIntelligence #Neuroscience #Leadership #BehaviouralChange #CancerSurvivor #IntentionalPhotography

Therapy, Photograohy, Grief, Relationships, Inner Child, Coaching, Behaviour, ChatGPT, Science, AI, Evolution, OtherPaul Roebuck30 March 2026Comment

Where Am I in My Grief?

Where Am I in My Grief?

You feel lost, numb, angry, or strangely calm — sometimes all in the same day. Where are you in your grief, and is this normal? #GriefSupport #2AMThoughts #CycleOfGrief

Paul Roebuck17 February 2026Comment

Intentional Photography

Intentional Photography

I photograph the moment between awareness and response.

The instant someone realises they are seen, before performance begins.

Not every image is meant to be shared.

Intentional photography is knowing when presence matters more than publication.

Sometimes the most truthful act is not posting the photograph at all.

Behaviour, AI, PhotograohyPaul Roebuck21 December 2025photograohyComment

Not Good Enough, or Fear of Failure?

Not Good Enough, or Fear of Failure?

Are you a Not Good Enough (NGE) or a Not My Fault (NMF) person?

After several thousand hours working with several hundred individuals as a counsellor and coach I’ve concluded each of us fit into one of these behavioural states.

This article examines the characteristics of both, and how our Emotional Intelligence can be enriched with this knowledge.

Behaviour, CoachingPaul Roebuck8 March 2022Comment

How does your Life affect your Life?

How does your Life affect your Life?

The word Life has many meanings. It describes the journey from birth to death, and encompasses all our experiences, which form our memories. What precisely do we do with those memories?

Behaviour, TherapyPaul Roebuck28 December 2021 Comments

Personal Wealth. You may be richer than you think

Personal Wealth. You may be richer than you think

Use this personal wealth calculator to help you realise your true value

Behaviour, CoachingPaul Roebuck4 November 2021Comment

Beginners guide and 10 Top Tips for building your Chat GPT agent.

Beginners guide and 10 Top Tips for building your Chat GPT agent.

A quick and simple to follow guide on setting up your own ChatGPT agent and a simple examination of prompt engineering

Coaching, AI, ChatGPTPaul Roebuck22 June 2021chatgpt, aiComment

Neuroscience: Have scientists found the inner child?

Neuroscience: Have scientists found the inner child?

Recent research has concluded “a group of cells in the amygdala (the centre of our emotional processing) sometimes don’t grow up”.

is this scientific evidence of the inner child?

Inner Child, SciencePaul Roebuck7 April 2021Comment

Evolution: The universe in your lifetime

Evolution: The universe in your lifetime

The universe arrived from a Big Bang 13,800,000,000 (13.8bn) years ago.. All the stars, planets, animals, people, and places are made from the resources generated by this moment.

The average human life is c.85 years.

Here is the timeline of our universe, compressed into a human lifetime.

Evolution, SciencePaul Roebuck4 April 2021life, evolution Comment

Behaviour: You'd better believe this

Behaviour: You'd better believe this

Our behaviour (how we act and react) largely determines the kind of outcomes we get. If and athlete trains well (a behaviour) then they will likely run faster for example. How we behave (act and react) is determined by how we feel.

This article examines how our beliefs about something or someone impacts our outcomes

Behaviour, CoachingPaul Roebuck31 March 2021courses, talks, Beliefs, emotional intelligence, mind gymComment

Relationship breakdown: What about the kids? 12 things to consider

Relationship breakdown: What about the kids? 12 things to consider

If you're a parent contemplating separation, or you initiated it recently, or in the distant past, I’m sure the question “If we break up, what about the kids, will they be okay?” has run through your mind many times.

A thought provoking, powerful and impactful examination of the short and long term psychological impacts on children living through a parental separation; and how to minimise them

Relationships, TherapyPaul Roebuck30 March 2021Separation, children, self-harm, relationships, families Comments

Therapy: The Elevator Pitch, what does a Behavioural Psychotherapist do?

Therapy: The Elevator Pitch, what does a Behavioural Psychotherapist do?

I’m often asked what I do for a living however someone recently asked me to describe what I do, which isn’t easy. I was reminded that we should all have an elevator pitch, a way of describing to an interested stranger that we meet in a lift. You’ve the time it takes to reach their floor to educate them.

Therapy, CoachingPaul Roebuck15 March 2021Comment

Behaviour: The Karpman Triangle, a new angle on the Meghan & Harry Interview

Behaviour: The Karpman Triangle, a new angle on the Meghan & Harry Interview

The conflict between the Royals and the interview with Oprah provides a wonderful opportunity to examine the victim and rescuer described in the Karpman triangle

Behaviour, SciencePaul Roebuck9 March 2021Comment

Trauma: The hidden impact of traumatic events.

Trauma: The hidden impact of traumatic events.

A negative or traumatic event activates the release of cortisol as part of our freeze fight flight response. We relive this traumatic event repeatedly both consciously and unconsciously, and the continued drip feeding of cortisol has detrimental impacts on our physical as well as emotional and mental wellbeing.

Science, TherapyPaul Roebuck27 February 2021Comment

Video: The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People

Video: The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People

The worldwide best seller by Dr. Stephen R. Covey is simply a must read for anyone wishing to develop their leadership skills, emotional intelligence or further their personal development.

At 381 pages it’s quite a substantial and quite a technical read so here is a 2 minute video which quickly summarises the 7 habits.

Behaviour, CoachingPaul Roebuck22 January 2020Comment

Physics Unveiled: Does Dark Matter Link Quantum Mechanics and General Relativity?

Physics Unveiled: Does Dark Matter Link Quantum Mechanics and General Relativity?

Dive into a realm where science meets mystery! “Physics Unveiled: Does Dark Matter Link Quantum Mechanics and General Relativity" is not just another physics blog. It's a journey into the heart of one of the universe's greatest enigmas. Ever wondered if there's more to dark matter than meets the eye? What if it's the key to uniting the world of quantum mechanics with the vastness of general relativity?

This blog offers a fresh, thought-provoking perspective on dark matter as the cornerstone of all matter and forces. Whether you're a seasoned physicist, a curious student, or just a lover of deep scientific mysteries, this post will challenge your understanding of the cosmos and ignite your imagination. Join us in exploring a theory that could redefine our grasp of the universe and bring harmony to the apparent conflict between Quantum mechanics and General Relativity.

Evolution, Science, AIPaul Roebuck4 October 2019Comment

Inner Child: A wonderful expression of the Inner Child

Inner Child: A wonderful expression of the Inner Child

I came across this powerful image by Alex Boya a Canadian film director and expressionist. I felt the image justifies being published in its own right but have taken the opportunity to add a commentary which provides one (of which there are many) interpretations of the inner child.

Inner Child, TherapyPaul Roebuck13 July 2019Comment

Behaviour: Mad as a hatter. You are.

Behaviour: Mad as a hatter. You are.

It’s madness. Why is it we can continue to repeat unhelpful, unhealthy, unwanted patterns of behaviour, yet at the first opportunity we drop healthy and seemingly preferred behaviours as quick as you can say never again.

Behaviour, TherapyPaul Roebuck10 June 2019Madness, Behaviour, TrainingComment

How to print the Limbic System in 3D.

How to print the Limbic System in 3D.

Anatomical 3D Model Limbic System. Print files location and printing company with details for how to print Limbic System in 3D

Evolution, SciencePaul Roebuck9 June 20193D print, Limbic system Comments

Russian Doll: Inner Child Therapy (w. Podcast)

Russian Doll: Inner Child Therapy (w. Podcast)

The first time I heard the term “Inner Child Therapy” it conjured up dark sultry images of a disfigured abused child..

That was 13 years ago. Little did I raealise one day I would be using that very technique. It’s the foundation of Russian Doll therapy and this blog provides a rare and unique insight into the impact on one twenty something year old client.

Inner Child, TherapyPaul Roebuck5 June 2019Therapy, Russian dolls, Inner child therapy, Counselling, Matryoshka Doll, PodcastComment