It’s madness. Why is it we can continue to repeat unhelpful, unhealthy, unwanted patterns of behaviour, yet at the first opportunity we drop healthy and seemingly preferred behaviours as quick as you can say never again.
The first time I heard the term “Inner Child Therapy” it conjured up dark sultry images of a disfigured abused child..
That was 13 years ago. Little did I raealise one day I would be using that very technique. It’s the foundation of Russian Doll therapy and this blog provides a rare and unique insight into the impact on one twenty something year old client.
Hebb’s Law “if two neurons (brain cells) are active at the same time, the synapses which connects them is strengthened.” Hebbs first proposed it in 1949 and sometimes expressed colloquially as “neurons that fire together get wired together.” Or, to use the ancient formulation from the Book of Proverbs, “As a man thinketh in his heart, so is he.” (23:7)
I met Dave several years ago though business. We were both living the high life. A few years ago, like most of us, Dave tripped off the pavement of life. I spoke to him today after hearing his Dad passed away last Tuesday. I was expecting to find Dave in the bottom of his favourite bottle. How surprised I was when we chatted, and he said he had written a blog. I read it and felt compelled to post it.
This is an apt description for people who find themselves in a role that they don’t feel worthy of. They often describe feeling like a fraud and have a fear of being found out, yet these can be extraordinary competent, talented and successful people, if only they could see what others see.
Want to learn more about yourself? Find out more insights and areas for growth? Here’s an established tool, and how to use it, to help individuals and couples to gain an insight to themselves and each other, in both a professional and personal setting.
It’s no surprise to know that if we think about a past sad experience then we will likely feel sadness. Well, neuroscientists have now pinpointed the specific circuits in the brain which hardwire long term memory to our emotional expression.
Many people describe feeling not good enough, and some of those seemingly have it all. Over-ness describes the striving insatiable urge for more and more. Never satisfied. Never fulfilled. Never good enough. Why?
It’s not by chance the Prince Harry has found support from talking therapy. It was clear from a very early age that he carried a great deal of anger. The memories of this young boy will be stir up very powerful emotions I’d suggest. This blog examines the typical consequences of keeping a lid on grief. “Don’t talk about it”